Comments on: BEST LAID PLANS…

By: Nece's granddaughter

Nece's granddaughter — Sun, 26 Jul 2009 02:08:21 +0000

I just had to share a story of my grandma and the last time I visited her in the nursing home. My mom and I were talking about when she and my aunt were teenagers, cause Grandma had excellent long-term memory, but no short-term memory. Anyway, Mom said she and her sister never did any more work around the house than needed to be done, and out of nowhere, Grandma piped up and said ‘you two didn’t always do what needed to be done either!’ Then she giggled like she hadn’t giggled in months. We all three just laughed till we cried. That will be one of my favorite memories of her. She passed away two weeks ago at the age of 94. God Bless Her, and God Bless you and your family Jill!

By: Queen Vicki Gigi

Queen Vicki Gigi — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 21:33:13 +0000

Jill,
Re: Your Patience blog entry
My grandmother was becoming dehydrated while on home hospice, as a nurse, I noticed it. I kept offering her water with her straw, encouraging her to sip. She was lucid at times. Then almost comatose. Then at the end of the day, she looked at me, with those still beautiful blue eyes and said “Why, are we drinking all this water for?” “I am going to piss all over the bed” and we both had a big laugh. You never know what these days will bring. Just be there.

By: Queen Vicki Gigi

Queen Vicki Gigi — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 05:30:56 +0000

Precious Jill,
What a wonderful thing you are doing for your mama, having her at home. I hope the hospice is helpful for mama & you. If not, seek one out that is. We are having that in our own family, down in Aberdeen. Let folks help you when they offer, then you can devote your time to your mama, that is how it should be. I just read “American Thighs”…thank you for helping me laugh during my troubled times, wish I could do something for you. I do continue to pray for y’all everyday.

By: Donna

Donna — Fri, 17 Jul 2009 02:47:42 +0000

wow! This is really heavy stuff and my heart is heavy for you. I’m new to the whole SPQ environment, but not new to what you are describing. The law firm I work at is an elder law firm and as a result of my job I see people dealing with your exact struggles on a weekly basis. Just today even a husband came to our office in tears with what he has been through the past few weeks with his wife who he now describes as “someone else”. I thought I would cry. Stay strong Jill! What an awesome gift of love you are giving to your Mama. God Bless!

By: Holly Denton

Holly Denton — Thu, 16 Jul 2009 00:36:41 +0000

The best thing you can do for your mamma is to be there with her. I know first hand what’s you’re going through darlin and my prayers are with you.

By: Laura Jennison

Laura Jennison — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 21:35:58 +0000

Our thoughts and prayers are with you. It’s a tough thing. Glad you have all kinds of support, especially what you described Kyle doing. And I loved the Patience Post. It was perfect.

My cousin recently went through something similar with her mama. Her mama just passed about a month ago at age 99, about 2 weeks after her birthday.

Take care,
Laura

By: Scarlet Pazdersky

Scarlet Pazdersky — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 14:50:59 +0000

Keeping y’all in my prayers, such a rough time. You have so many people that care, just look at these posts! You’re very blessed, and you and your sister are lucky to have a good Momma in your life.

By: Sandy

Sandy — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 11:53:44 +0000

Missed things for a couple of days…computer problems.
I am glad y’all brought her home…It will actually be easier, in my opinion…for everybody.
Hospital or Nursing Home is no place for anybody to actually get any REST !
Been where you are several times now, Jill.
It’s not easy by any stretch of the imagination, but in hindsight…Lord, those last days (however many there were) sure flew by fast…
Love her up all you can…you’ll treasure every minute later, a hundred times more than you do right now.
Keeping y’all in my prayers.

Sandy

By: KimmyDarling

KimmyDarling — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 03:00:39 +0000

Wow– the patience thing gives me pause. Great insight.

Love you,
kd

By: Ellen McGowen (aka Queen Willie Jo)

Ellen McGowen (aka Queen Willie Jo) — Wed, 15 Jul 2009 02:51:51 +0000

Dear Jill — most royal of Queens!

Just close your eyes and remember the Great Gathering of Royal Women that you yourveryownself inspired to congregate in Jackson this past Spring and know that eachandeveryoneofus is with you right now. You are the one to take care of Mama, but we are here to take care of You. Hunny — you are loved. And thank you for sharing your Mama with those of us whose mamas are gone to Heaven. Just think what a Pee-Rade we will have up there!!!!!!! God bless us all.